Considering it is just after Mother’s Day, with Father’s Day looming on the horizon, I thought I’d talk about writing poems about parents. We get a lot of those type of poems at Gyroscope Review. It’s an important topic as poets work through their feelings about parents and the past – and sometimes the future. It’s a deeply personal topic, and there is a fine line between the danger of lapsing into sentimentality or letting the poem explore the theme. Writing about the loss of a parent, or a parent with cancer is a tough topic. Look for the universal in the subject. People will care a lot more about the poem if they can see themselves in it. They might be indifferent about your pain, but let them see how it’s everyone’s pain and they are on board.
Other parent poems we get are about the act of raising a child with all the cliches of childhood. Skinned knees, first dates, learning to ride a bike. How do you open that up? Approach it from a father’s point of view, or a sibling, or the skinned knee itself. Take us somewhere new. Make us see the subject in a different light, one we haven’t thought of before. What we don’t see is enough poems about the intricacies of being a parent. What it’s like to raise a special needs child, or a gender fluid child. Or a bullied child. Or an autistic child navigating the everyday world. Put us in your sneakers. As a parent, how do you approach these topics without echoing breathless news headlines?
Here are some Gyroscope Review poems and the issues they are in to explore:
My Bi-Polar Bear by Paul Strohm ISSUE 18-1 WINTER 2018
Candy Colored Dreams by Deborah L. Davitt ISSUE 17-4 FALL 2017
Sketches of my Mother by Samuel Salerno ISSUE 17-4 FALL 2017
Grendel’s Mother by Sally Zakariya ISSUE 17-3 SUMMER 2017
Every Day is Mother’s Day by Alexis Rhone Fancher ISSUE 17-1 WINTER 2017
The Man Who Explained Maps by John Grey ISSUE 17-1 WINTER 2017
Memorial for Miriam’s Dad (and Miriam) by Sandy Feinstein ISSUE 16-1 WINTER 2016
Waking Daddy by Akualezli Hope ISSUE 16-1 WINTER 2016
Letting Go by Barry Charman ISSUE 16-1 WINTER 2016
Mother’s and Father’s Day make everyone hyper-focus on tradition—cards, ties, a bouquet of flowers. Dig deeper. What if, as a parent, or a child, you never gave or received any gift on those days? How would you feel? Does acknowledgement matter? Has it torpedoed a relationship? Is it revenge for an imagined slight? Self-preservation?
Parents aren’t as simplistic as we remember them to be. They have lives outside of their children. We often are exploring through poetry our relationship with a parent, and how it’s changed now that we’ve gotten older (and so have they). We should no longer look back with nostalgia, but with the critical eye of the poet, ready to write the truth, no matter how unpleasant it might be, or what it might reveal about ourselves. That’s a tough order. But poets are up to the challenge.
Mothers. Everyone has one somewhere. So we hope you celebrate yours, or celebrate you if you are a mother, this Sunday.
And here, for your poetry pleasure, is a sampling of some of the poems we’ve published that offer pieces of what mothers do, feel, long for, and mean. None of these are traditional celebrations of motherhood, but they do dig beneath the idealized vision we are used to. We invite you to have a look once the Mother’s Day celebrations are over, when you have a quiet moment or two.
Crooked Pinkies by Laurie Kolp, Gyroscope Review issue 15-1, page 23.
Now We Will Speak in Flowers by Micki Blenkush, Gyroscope Review issue 15-1, page 25.
A Poem About Maria Theresa by James Graham, Gyroscope Review issue 15-1, page 27.
Chorus by Terry Jude Miller, Gyroscope Review issue 15-1, page 37.
Fried Bread by Patricia Frolander, Gyroscope Review issue 15-2, page 26.
The Starving Wind by Steve Klepetar, Gyroscope Review issue 15-3, page 7.
Long Lost by Oonah V Joslin, Gyroscope Review issue 15-3, page 22.
Never Forget Why Your Wrist Throbs by Alexis Rhone Fancher, Gyroscope Review issue 16-1, page 26.
Olive Oil by Julianne DiNenna, Gyroscope Review issue 16-1, page 39.
When You Think You’re Ready to Pack Up Your Grief by Alexis Rhone Fancher, Gyroscope Review issue 16-1, page 40.
Dead Line by Claire Scott, Gyroscope Review issue 16-2, page 15.
My Sister Tells Me by Kathleen McClung, Gyroscope Review issue 16-2, page 17.
Ten O’Clock, The Day Already Threatening by Kari Gunter-Seymour, Gyroscope Review issue 16-2, page 20.